Boundaries

So i frequently repeat as my mantra "we cannot control what others do, we can only control what we choose to do." It's easy to remember... when you're not dealing with something someone else did.

I'm getting better at two things; looking ahead to possible things that might happen and deciding in advance what actions i will choose, as well as communicating to people what i intend to do when specific circumstances arise. I'm still not perfect at it, though.

The trouble seems to be that those boundaries are flexible. Certain things i'm not willing to allow under one set of circumstances is perfectly logical under others.

But i'm trying to be proactive, and i'm getting better at this.